‘Pride’…. the word itself has its complications. In fact , it is very much like common salt . The excess of salt ruins the whole palette , while less of it , doesn’t let us enjoy the flavors of the food . Sprinkle just the right amount , and it can work wonders !
Similarly if you have too much ‘Pride’ packed into your personality , you will bloat and collapse under the weight of it .
‘Pride hath a fall’ , is a moral lesson infused into us right from our kindergarten days . Remember the story of ‘The hare and the tortoise’ ?
Yet , without this ‘Pride’ , you are left with a deflated ego and a low self esteem. Not a good thing to have either…..
But just the ‘right’ amount will let you flower and touch new heights …
Pride , is a feeling of ‘worth’ , that one may feel for one’s own self or for another person .
Throughout our lives , we are searching for this ‘self worth’ in the eyes of another person. As a child we crave for that one approving look from our mom or that one motivating pat from our dad .
Sometimes we get it in abundance , sometimes we do not . Even when we grow up , we do the same . Just that, now it is not our parental approval that we seek but that of our peers .
A word of praise , a nod of agreement , and sometimes even hugs . As we move on in life , no matter how much we achieve , a thumbs up from our better half , a kiss from our little one , can still go on to make a lot of difference in our life !
A few times , verbal and a few times in gestures , your close ones do tell you how proud they are of you . And sometimes , there are occasions when you may not receive these magical words for something you expect , but then that is life , bear with it !
However , life does not end there . I believe , each one of us , is the best judge of our own ‘self worth’. When one becomes aware of one’s own strengths and weaknesses , is the time one learns to live with both ; to coexist in happiness.
Realizing one’s problem areas and trying to rectify them , is a sign of maturity . Also , a person who accepts his skills and good qualities , without letting them hamper his sensibilities , is a socially mature individual .
Taking pride in oneself is a very good way of staying happy and content . Of course , as I have stated before , this pride should only encourage one to improve upon themselves , rather than demean others .
People who put down others or try to humiliate them are those who , in reality have a poor self worth . In fact , these poor humans are victims of insecurities and frustrated egos , that they try to boost incorrectly by being pompous and disapproving towards others .
I have heard a lot of homemakers forever crib about their better halves or kids never appreciating them or being verbal with their feelings .
But what I would like to say is that the deepest feelings are felt , not told . Besides , learn to be proud of your own self first and the world will follow. A person content in himself , will not have to seek happiness and approval from others .
Of course , we all love to hear somebody tell us , ‘I am so proud of you.’ But your worth shouldn’t be a matter to be judged at the whims of your family and peers. Never let their opinions about you change the way you perceive yourself . Your worth should be judged by you and you alone – you , who is deserving and beautiful , in every which way……….
So tonight before you go to bed , look at yourself in the mirror and say , ‘I am so proud of you !’.
Love yourself . Be proud of the unique person you are , yet modest in your attitude towards others . Do things that will make you proud about yourself , improve yourself everyday and the world will applaud , sooner or later !